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Hello My Steemain Friends ,
How are you. I hope you people of steemian are good and enjoy your life . Well I am well. May God bless you all. Today I am writing about an interesting Steemit Engagement Challenge S24- W3: which is all time my favourite topic “Powerful Debate -Love vs Arguments" this amazing challenge organised by @tammanna . So, in this post I am going to share my point of view about this topic.
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It is natural for most husbands and wives to have arguments, because everyone has their own ideas and it is not necessary that the ideas always match. But I believe that if both the husband and wife are short-tempered and hot-headed, then the marital relationship will have to face a lot of troubles. It is necessary for one of the husband and wife to have a cool mind, only then the relationship can run smoothly, this is my personal belief.
There were husband and wife named Anita and Ashok, both were hot-tempered. In the beginning, Anita was very scared of Ashok. Apologizing for everything, working at home, even after that her husband was never happy with her. Meanwhile, they had three children. Fights, light-hearted love, this is how the relationship was progressing. Their children had grown up a lot, they also came to college. But the estrangement, husband and wife getting angry at every small thing, arguing, somewhere or the other creates a rift in the relationship.
Anita's husband had become used to hearing sorry and ruling his own way, so he thought everything was okay and everything was fine. But sometimes the situation gets out of hand, when the matter gets too much. One day Anita lost her patience and she rebelled.
The husband who used to rule over his wife, today he has no respect in the house. Today Anita does not do a single thing of his, because there is a limit to everything. You were used to hearing sorry, if Ashok had also said sorry once, then the cracks in the relationship would not have been created and today their marriage would not have been on the verge of breaking.
So it is not important who should be asked to say sorry. What is important is that the one who is at fault should be asked to say sorry as soon as possible. Because the relationship is not just between one person, it is the relationship of both husband and wife, the lives of both are connected to it.
Reveal the simple thinking of your mind and show us that in any quarrel or problem that arises between a couple, the first thing that men do is always admit their mistakes and apologize to their wives in order to keep their relationship intact. Is this right or should the one who is at greater fault in the quarrel first admit his mistakes and apologize to his partner and try to fix the relationship? |
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As far as I believe, in a fight between husband and wife, the wife has to say sorry first. Because the husband's ego comes first, the husband feels that if he says sorry, he will be diminished, his importance in the house will be reduced. To be honest, sometimes this is the most important reason for fights. Because according to me, whether it is the husband or the wife, whoever is at fault, he should say sorry immediately. The matter should not be dragged too much.
Because the more you drag the matter, the more your self-respect will be hurt in saying sorry. That's why I say from my personal experience, it has been 20 years since my marriage, but whenever there is a fight or argument between us, even if I get angry for some time, I immediately try to fix the atmosphere by saying sorry. Because if you don't say sorry and wait for the other person to say sorry, then it is probably not possible, because my husband never says sorry. I always have to say sorry, no matter whose mistake it is.
Where many people think that in a fight, the husband should be the first to say sorry and their wives should be the first to resolve the conflict and mend the relationship. Do you agree with this view or do you think it is different in your case? Express your own feelings. |
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I believe that to fix relationships, if one person becomes a little soft and the relationship is getting better, the atmosphere of the house is healthy, the children are not facing any problem, then there is no problem. You should not bow down where there is oppression against you.
According to me, mostly wives have to say sorry. Husbands say sorry very rarely, those wives are very lucky whose husbands say sorry first. Because if both husband and wife follow their own beliefs, then the relationship and family cannot move forward, so wives have to say sorry even if they don't want to.
This is definitely a bitter truth, but this is the truth. The husband always tries to show himself as perfect and he has a misconception that he never makes any mistake. Whereas it is the responsibility of both the husband and wife to maintain social or family respect and relationships. But the husband always wants that the wife should say sorry. I have understood this very well, so without wasting a moment, I immediately say sorry and end the conversation, because whether I say sorry now or after four days, I have to say sorry. It will hurt more to say it after four days, so I say it immediately and end the conversation and perhaps this word sorry has no value in my life now.
However, in this case, will it be wise for both the husband and wife to accept their mistakes and apologize to each other to maintain their relationship, or will it be wiser to maintain their ego and create unrest in the family day by day? What do you think is right? |
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If it is the fault of either the husband or the wife, then there should be no shame in saying sorry. Because if you have made a mistake then you must say sorry, it is not wise to spoil the relationship by maintaining ego. Because it is not only the relationship of husband and wife, there are many relationships attached to them, which get shattered due to the slightest foolishness of the husband and wife. It is not only the life of two people that gets spoiled, it is the life of many people and if there are children then the children are most affected.
As I told you the story above, of Anita Ashok, they have three children, today the ego of both husband and wife has progressed to such an extent that it is having a bad effect on the lives of the children. Today, the children who used to study are going out and working for some money, because they have to feed themselves, so it is not wise to show ego. It is wise to accept one's mistake and the person who is not able to do anything for them, is not able to do anything for them.That person is more mature in nature and understanding, he understands relationships.
Women are more emotional. When they are unable to use their words, unable to express their views in front of their husbands, then only their eyes speak and they keep on shedding tears. Their sorrow, their pain flows through tears.
It is not wise to show ego, it is not wise to bow down to your partner. When the relationship of husband and wife breaks, the children suffer the most. I see many such parents whose fights affect the children. So keep the ego aside and have the courage to accept your mistake. If you have the courage to make a mistake, then accept it too. This is called intelligence, you should behave with the other person the same way you want to be treated with you. So there is no harm in saying sorry to maintain family happiness and peace.
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Saludos @aviral123 amiga un honor tener tu bonita y encantadora participación con nosotros. Si realmente pienso que ambos tienen que ir a la búsqueda de pedir perdón la relación es de dos no es que sea uno que tenga que hacerlo siempre ambos deben trabajar en conjunto y saber reconocer las fallas allí el cambio de todo. Te deseo mucho éxito 20 años de matrimonio es bastante imagino las experiencias.
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Coincido totalmente con tu criterio apreciada amiga. También considero que hay un desbalance en las relaciones que muchas veces pone en ventaja a los esposos. Pero la verdad es que cuando existen disputas, siempre debería ofrecer disculpas quien ha cometido el error independiente que sea el esposo o la esposa. Te deseo éxitos siempre.
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