"SLC-S24/W1 - Tangled Emotion | The Powerful Conversation"

Here we go, as I have selected "Tasks of Powerful Debate on Wife & Husband" for Steemit Challenge S24W1 and I invite @waterjoe, @lirvic and @pandora2010 for their views on this subject.

 

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I have been married for a long time, and I understand that these arguments are normal in a married life, especially if your wife feels her husband is a 'playful' type of guy. But it all depends on how we start or end these arguments, and we must remember that even if we are emotionally attached to each other, these disagreements are bound to happen. However, the way we handle them can affect our emotional health and the relationship itself.

Disagreements are inevitable in a marriage, but when these arguments get caught in a negative spiral of narcissism, the same arguments get repeated, creating an emotional distance between us and a feeling of being misunderstood or mistreated, especially if the case is "fidelity."

If the wife is angry about your affair with another woman, even if it is just her suspicion, the emotional stakes are very high because such arguments often hurt her ego and affect the feelings of love and respect between her and you as she feels like an unwanted partner.

We should know that such arguments can cause resentment, conflict, stress, anxiety, depression, and even physical health problems in our marriage. Doubt in marriage can, over time, lead our partner to have negative thoughts and definitely increase emotional distance, reducing intimacy.

In your opinion, who showed greater emotional maturity during the conversation, and what made you feel that way? Was it honesty, self-control, empathy, or something else?

To be honest, I have found myself in such a situation once, but I stayed calm during that argument, giving my side honestly, but I didn't react or swear or use abusive language because I didn't want my partner to feel rejected, which would do nothing but increase emotional distress between the two of us.

As a man in this case, my defense was honest based on argumentation, which was to try to minimize or resolve my partner’s feelings. I suggest everyone listen to your partner's feelings and show understanding as long as you are not doing any wrong or keep your partnership intact.

I am sure if you put your side honestly, this will help your partner control her emotions by trying to understand and empathize with her feelings, rather than focusing only on being right or winning the argument. You can't do that, at least not on all occasions, because that will only exaggerate the matter.

Look at our case

Dev, "Honey, wait... that's just a request for sweat tea and not Sweaty."

Tina, "Don't tell me that, I was about to open the door when I heard you loud and clear.

Dev, "Oh my gosh, okay... okay, let me explain. How would you differentiate between Sweat Tea and Sweaty from closed doors? I guess you are disappointed because I refused the second honeymoon and you're imagining the things.

Tina, "No! I heard you clearly and what about your late outings in the name of marketing meetings? It's not a blame but I checked with the hotel and they said there was no meeting in this hotel that day."

Dev, " Didn't I tell you the same day that our meeting was shifted to marina Resort? I never lie to you honey and you know that!.

Tina, "Shifted venue? But how do I know you were with your cliant and not alone with your secratory? You have been going on too many meetings ever since you arrived in Australia."

Dev, "Please! Trust me, and see I have this booking for our second honeymoon in Snowy Mountains in June. Let's not let the suspicion sit in between two of us."

Tina, "You shouldn't have gone anywhere without telling me in advance because this can cause our marriage break."

Dev smiled at Tina and hugged her tight reassuringly.

Now you're the judge so decide who was rude and who was honest!

Do you believe that emotional cheating can cause as much or even deeper damage than physical cheating? Where do you think the true betrayal begins: in the heart or the body?

 
Cheating isn't just sleeping with someone else; it begins long before that. Emotional cheating is just as real and just as damaging as physical cheating. Flirting is a telltale sign which is visible in your partner's behavior for seeking attention outside the relationship. Or maybe you find secret messages, as these are all forms of infidelity. If you feel the need to delete messages, hide a phone, or downplay someone's role, you already know you're crossing a line. Disrespect begins in the mind.

The moment you let someone else occupy the space that should be reserved for your partner, betrayal begins.

Emotional affairs can be even more dangerous than physical affairs because they involve trust, vulnerability, and intimacy, which are the foundation of a relationship. If you don't want your partner to do this, you already know it's wrong.

I suggest you stop underestimating cheating. Loyalty isn't just about keeping your body faithful; it's about protecting your partner's heart, even when they're not looking.

What are some subtle yet powerful signs that emotional distance is growing between partners? Can you spot these red flags before it’s too late?

 
When you fall in a relationship, everything feels beautiful and lovely at the start, but if a playful partner starts changing with time, then there are certain signs which clearly show that s/he is thinking of going away from you. If you start noticing something different in his/her behavior, then you should need to be alert.

A relationship based on the foundation of love, respect, and trust remains strong only as long as both partners respect each other's feelings, but when any of these things start weakening, the relationship can reach the verge of breaking.

If your partner does not talk to you openly like before or does not show interest in your words, then this can be a serious sign. Constant procrastination, making excuses of being busy, or getting irritated without reason shows that he is no longer interested in conversation like before.

Do you feel that your partner no longer shows the same caring approach as before? He hesitates to come close to you; has holding your hand or hugging you also reduced? If yes, then this can be a sign that he is distancing himself from you emotionally and physically.

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Can love truly survive a deep betrayal? What do you really need to rebuild and reconnect with broken trust?

 
Yes, it's possible, especially when a person is playfully typed who breaks your trust; then you feel the pain, and you don't want to live with them with your broken trust, and this hurts more, which s/he does knowingly.

No matter how many times we get hurt in love, the mind wants to trust once again. Like many times, we do something that makes us afraid to trust them again, but after some time, the love we have for them builds the trust again.

Trust also depends on relationships, on love, and on need. In some relationships, trust is built with the same strength every time, while in some relationships it creates distance. Sometimes breaking of trust becomes a lifelong pain, and sometimes one feels like closing the eyes and holding the same hand again.

Trust is such a foundation on which the building of hopes is built, and if this foundation is weak, then when the building falls, the person gets buried under it and becomes indifferent towards life.

If you were a marriage consultant, what advice would you give to couples in the sheath of heart break and healing? Speak from wisdom, experience, or even personal pain.

 
If I were a marriage counselor and if you were not able to resolve the heartbreak and the situation were getting worse, I would first suggest that the partners should try to compromise. Both of you should communicate and listen to each other's objections so that you can understand each other's objections and concerns.

I am sure that would improve the situation, but if not, I would tell them if you want a happy and stable partnership, you should try to face the problem involving both your families and friends. Talk to your parents and family members. Spend time with friends. And maybe go on your second honeymoon. Sometimes a change of scenery can solve the problem.

Legal action is the last resort, but if the problem is getting worse and there is no other option left, you can take legal action.

But again, I would say that this advice is not general advice, and the solution to your problem depends on your marriage experience and the severity of the problem. You need to use your own discretion along with the advice of an expert to take the best step to save your marriage.

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