Hello friends home and abroad warm regards to everyone, I'm Anthony from Nigeria and it's a pleasure to have you on my post, I'm delighted to engage in this week's amazing Contest titled: "SLC-S24/W2 - Powerful Debate | Love vs Capability" organized by ma'am @vishwara and her team, which I am going to share with you all my POV (insights).
Before I proceed, I would like to thank @vishwara and her team, especially for organizing this amazing contest and the community. It is an honor to be part of the participants. Let's dive in!
Are mothers to be blamed or judged for focusing on their careers instead of prioritizing their family and children?
In my own perspective view! No, mothers shouldn’t be judged or blamed when they prioritize their careers. Here’s why
I. Personal Satisfaction Is Important: Like everyone else, mothers are individuals with ambitions, interests, and abilities. Motherhood aside, there can be personal satisfaction, intellectual challenge, and sense of purpose that can be obtained in a career.
II. Necessity of economics: Dual incomes aren't luxuries to many households, rather they're necessities.mother-blaming disregards economic reality and places an unfair burden of personal sacrifice exclusively on females.
III. Role Models: Working mothers tend to endorse resilience, ambition, and independence to their children and show them that women can achieve personal and professional success.
IV. Shared Responsibility: Parenting is everyone's job. The double standard of expecting mothers to put family above themselves and fathers earning admiration as career men is rooted in old-fashioned gender stereotypes.
VI. Quality versus Quantity: Quality, and not quantity, of time spent with kids is what's really important. An available, involved working mom can be more effective than one who is physically available but mentally drained or unfulfilled.
We need to be supporting mothers to be balancing career and family, rather than judging them when they do.
Create the debate of your thoughts showing the weight of two worlds, the split of mother's mind. Should mothers be judged for pursuing their careers or dreams?
A creative and emotionally charged debate-style piece that captures the inner split many mothers face—the weight of two worlds:
Debate Topic: Should Mothers Be Judged for Pursuing Their Careers or Dreams?
(Affirmative - Society’s Judgment Speaks)
"A mother’s first duty is to her child."
That’s what they say, isn't it?
When a mother steps out of the home, into boardrooms, hospitals, studios, or stages, some whisper, some shout:
"She’s chasing dreams while her child waits for bedtime stories told by strangers."
"She missed the recital."
"She wasn’t there when he cried after school."
Is ambition worth the skipped lullabies?
Can a trophy on a shelf replace a hug at 3 a.m.?
Society often frames it this way:
She chose herself over them.
And judgment follows like a shadow—
from grandparents, online strangers, even other mothers.
Because somehow, in the tight blueprint of expectations,
career and care are seen as rivals—never partners.
(Negative - The Mother’s Voice Answers)
But inside her, two worlds collide:
One nurtures life with open arms,
The other craves to build, to create, to rise.
And why must she choose?
Is a fulfilled mother not a stronger one?
When she walks out the door, she carries her children in her heart—every decision soaked in love.
The boardroom isn’t a betrayal; it’s a battle.
Not against her family, but for them.
She dreams, not in spite of her children, but because of them—
To show her daughter she can lead,
To show her son that women can be both soft and strong.
Judgment doesn’t know the nights she worked while they slept,
The guilt that lingers like perfume on every goodbye,
Or the silent promise she makes every morning:
"I do this for you too."
(In Conclusion – The Split Reality)
In her heart, two clocks tick—
One for deadlines, one for dinnertimes.
She lives between daycare drop-offs and investor pitches,
between finger paints and performance reviews.
Should she be judged? No.
She should be seen—in full.
Not as a mother who left, but as one who stayed—in every way that matters.
Is a mother who focuses on her work life and neglects the responsibility of her children, can she still be called a "perfect mom"? "They said a good mother never puts herself first but she wondered who would tell her daughter that her dreams mattered too?"
Can a mother who neglects her children for work still be called a “perfect mom”?
If neglect involves emotional distance, unmet needs, and repeated unavailability—rather than busyness or ambition—then no, it would not be the characteristic of a "perfect" mom. But this is the trap: motherhood is a myth of perfection.
We must inquire:
Who establishes this "perfect motherhood"
Is it a person who sacrifices all of herself to fulfill everyone else's requirements?
Or is it a person who teaches her children what self-worth, balance, and ambition are?
They told her a good mother never prioritizes herself, but she questioned who would inform her daughter that her aspirations were important too.
That line speaks volumes. Because if a mother never prioritizes herself—never pursues her own dreams—what does this teach her daughter? That her worth is only through a service to other people? That dreaming is a selfish aim?
The actual issue is not about perfection.
It is about presence, intention, and truth. A mother in love, a mother who seeks to balance, who lets her kids know dreams are real—such a mother may be imperfect by societal measures. She is powerful, genuine, and brave.
Big shout out to all the mothers out there, though I lost mine when I was 12 years old, I didn't lost the lovely memories thou, it still lives. But I can say that in the short time before she left, I knew how mother love felt like, she always loved and cared for the family, forever in my heart. ❤️❤️❤️🕊️
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